1.
When your child is doing something that you do not like, get down so that you are at their eye-level and start communicating in a nice voice about what it is that you do not like.
For example, my son Alexander was painting a little wooden turtle (black) in the kitchen but, then decided he would paint the newly painted trim! I quickly moistened a j-cloth and wiped all of the black paint off.
I did not scream at Alex.
I calmly bent down so I was now at his eye-level and I told him in a very loving voice.
"Sweetheart, please do not paint the walls.
Daddy just had the walls painted a beautiful white colour.
We want to keep the walls looking very nice and clean.
Please help Mommy keep the walls clean".
He kept standing in the hallway.
I then mentioned that we can either paint his ceramic car in the kitchen or that Mommy would put the paint brush away.
I actually gave him the choice to act properly.
Alex decided to go into the kitchen and paint his car.
Then he said that he wanted to go upstairs and play with his blocks.
The outcome was very good.
And, then I praised him for making a great decision.
2.
Another tip is to praise your toddler for his/her good behaviour.
Everyone likes to be acknowledged when they do well or accomplish a task with excellence.
The next time your toddler completes a task with excellence be sure to praise him/her.
Ignore the bad behaviour for the most part.
If it gets out of hand then it is time to put your foot down indeed.
However, toddlers realize that you are not acknowledging them as well when the bad behaviour arises and many times I have found that Alex stops when I ignore him during these moments.
3.
Avoid temper tantrums from beginning in the first place.
You might be wondering how can I avoid a temper tantrum? It can actually be quite simple.
I would suggest that you move and hide fragile or precious items that your toddler will want to play with.
This will offset the temptation for your toddler to see the item and then have a temper tantrum because he/she will not receive the item to play with.
Also, when it is nap time avoid the mall because it might not turn out to be a pleasant experience.
Schedule any activities, trips to the shopping centre or grocery store when your toddler is well rested! 4.
Remember that your toddler is very impressionable at this age and so he/she requires a lot of nurturing and love.
Remember to cuddle and love your toddler and give him/her lots of attention, hugs, and cuddles.
This will absolutely go a very long way to his/her emotional health and how you bond with your little one.
5.
When your toddler starts getting upset about something make an effort to change the topic so that there is a diversion from whatever it is that is making your toddler upset.
Most times this works really well especially if you divert your toddler with a toy or something that he/she prefers greatly.
It's a good idea to keep some of these great diversions somewhere hidden where you can pull them out in an emergency.
It could be as simple as a new toy or a toy your toddler has not played with in a while.
Sometimes toddlers can really get out of hand however, that is their way to test boundaries and learn what the rules are at home and in public.
I recommend implementing these 5 tips whenever you require them because they are very effective to achieve desired results.
I use these techniques with my son and now he is such a well behaved toddler so much so that I frequently get compliments about his good behaviour not only from teachers, friends, and family but, strangers as well!