The Wedding Conflict from a Guy"s Point of View
How many times have you heard the experts say that a wedding is one of the most stressful situations you'll encounter in your lifetime? Well, I'm here to let you know that they are 100% right. Even if you have the best attitude going into it, the most amazing fianc, all the money in the world, trust me; it's going to be a tough road.
The approach taken is so different between men and women. We guys generally pay less attention to a lot of things as long as we have the basics; the bride, a place to get married, the cake and some guests. The ladies on the other hand are a different story I think, for two basic reasons. One, they pay attention to a lot more detail than we do and two, because they have that romantic image and expectation that this has to be the perfect wedding. I've heard all the arguments - I'm only getting married once, this has to be the best day of my life, I have to be the most beautiful I've ever been, don't you realize what will happen if I don't invite Aunt Mary?, and the list goes on.
I'm thinking "I don't understand, I've got the bride, I've got the tux. What's to get so uptight about?"
If you really think about it, I guess it's just these natural differences between men and women that tend to manifest themselves during wedding preparations. It's not that we love our brides less than they do us nor that we don't care about what makes them happy. It's simply that our to do list in weddings and life tends to be a lot shorter that theirs.
Their list includes, the month, day and hour, the invitations, the dress, the shoes, the hair that has to look like it was designed for an Oscar night, the make up, the friends, the brides mates' dresses, the family, the reception, the food, the wine, the flower arrangements, the music, the Church, the pastor that's known me since I was a little girl, the wedding registry, and I'm sure there are more things. To be fair, they have to do all of it without having the slightest idea or experience in the wedding business. And if the list wasn't long enough, add to that the Honeymoon plans and prep work for moving in together. Where are we going for our Honeymoon? We need new furniture, new paint, appliances and hard wood floors.
Ok. I get all that. There is a lot of pressure and a lot to do. Maybe we could observe them for a little while and learn how to actually do 10 things at once. But I also think it's a two way street. There are few things to learn from us too. How about simplifying life a little and remembering that the only thing that really matters is the marriage, not the actual wedding event.
The approach taken is so different between men and women. We guys generally pay less attention to a lot of things as long as we have the basics; the bride, a place to get married, the cake and some guests. The ladies on the other hand are a different story I think, for two basic reasons. One, they pay attention to a lot more detail than we do and two, because they have that romantic image and expectation that this has to be the perfect wedding. I've heard all the arguments - I'm only getting married once, this has to be the best day of my life, I have to be the most beautiful I've ever been, don't you realize what will happen if I don't invite Aunt Mary?, and the list goes on.
I'm thinking "I don't understand, I've got the bride, I've got the tux. What's to get so uptight about?"
If you really think about it, I guess it's just these natural differences between men and women that tend to manifest themselves during wedding preparations. It's not that we love our brides less than they do us nor that we don't care about what makes them happy. It's simply that our to do list in weddings and life tends to be a lot shorter that theirs.
Their list includes, the month, day and hour, the invitations, the dress, the shoes, the hair that has to look like it was designed for an Oscar night, the make up, the friends, the brides mates' dresses, the family, the reception, the food, the wine, the flower arrangements, the music, the Church, the pastor that's known me since I was a little girl, the wedding registry, and I'm sure there are more things. To be fair, they have to do all of it without having the slightest idea or experience in the wedding business. And if the list wasn't long enough, add to that the Honeymoon plans and prep work for moving in together. Where are we going for our Honeymoon? We need new furniture, new paint, appliances and hard wood floors.
Ok. I get all that. There is a lot of pressure and a lot to do. Maybe we could observe them for a little while and learn how to actually do 10 things at once. But I also think it's a two way street. There are few things to learn from us too. How about simplifying life a little and remembering that the only thing that really matters is the marriage, not the actual wedding event.
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