Romantic relationships that begin with joy and excitement, can also end with a painful breakup.
For so many couples who break up, this is usually due to just a couple of reasons that it is...
final...
it's all over! The relationship breakup was causing grief or intense sorrow and could be emotionally very painful for one or both partners.
The one who was 'forsaken' had no idea what to do about it and probably did some very imprudent things such as begging, maltreating their ex by speaking to them inappropriately, intimidating to do something bad, pursuing their ex around etc.
The reason for the breakup seemed to be unconquerable.
It looked as if no way to start reversing what had occurred or to go about changing the way the relationship was in the end.
These two reasons are the run of the mill reasons for not doing anything.
You should now leave behind the breakup, the reasons why it happened and who is at fault or who is to blame.
This is not time for that.
Pay attention on the future and take a new proactive approach to this situation today.
You must begin to rebuild your self-respect and form a more desirable character that your ex will want to actively pursue.
He or she will never feel this way, If you wallow around in self-compassion and look like you have not slept for days.
He or she will feel they were right to end with you without a doubt.
You must be confident and love yourself and happy to form your desirability again.
This is your point of commencement and it will take a little time to succeed in salvaging the relationship.
In order to turn your life around and get back with your ex after a breakup, you need to make a real attempt to get smartened up and go out where your ex is not likely to be to start with.
Mingle with men and women and become comfortable in social situations again.
Of course, you feel so bad, heartbroken even and want to cry, sleep and lock yourself away and therefore going out is the last thing you want to do.
It will be difficult, but once you start to get out there you will find that it is amazingly easy.
A simple way to do this is to go shopping for something nice to wear and go for a cup of coffee.
Think of your best friend or your family member who really care about you, will listen to you and be there for you when you are struggling.
It is very important to have people to talk to.
Call them and go out to dinner, without overwhelming them with your relationship breakup issues too much.
So, first step accomplished.
After this, adopting the no contact rule is the thing you must do next.
You should cut communication off with your ex right after a breakup.
No showing up on a doorstep in person, no calling, emailing, text messaging...
no contact.
Your friends doing this on your behalf are also applied to this no contact rule.
This is intended to arouse the inquisitive interest of your ex.
They cannot but wonder where you are and why they have not heard from you - even though they broke up with you!