Express Your Feelings Openly
Adolescence can be such a difficult time, and expressing our feelings honestly and openly can be the hardest thing for us to do.
Others will intimidate us and make us feel out of control.
And this can make us feel a lot worse about ourselves and as a result we won't be able to act as confidently in real situations.
There may be times you may be afraid to show your peers and friends how you honestly feel because you think they won't accept you.
But this will only further disempower you.
Feelings and thoughts are different but they're also similar.
They are like the head and tail of a coin.
You react to events with both thoughts and feelings.
Feelings are emotions, and sensations, and they are different from thoughts, beliefs, and convictions.
When difficult feelings are expressed, the sharp edges are dulled.
Here are a few tips to express your feelings openly and honestly without worrying about what others think.
1.
Try to be specific rather than general about how you feel with your peers.
Don't use one or two words to express how you're feeling in the situation.
The more specific you can be, the more you will dissuade any of the negative impacts of their behaviour and responses on you.
2.
Clarify for yourself and the other person precisely how you feel.
If you're angry, remove yourself from the immediate situation to neutralize your feelings.
It is far better that you take a breather and resume contact with this person at a later date.
3.
Prevent feelings from building up and festering.
Always try to deal with your feelings before they become out of control.
This will give you the control that you need to deal with these feelings and you will gain a lot of self-knowledge as well.
4.
Communicate difficult feelings in a manner that minimizes the other person's need to become defensive, and increases the likelihood that the person will listen.
If you find this difficult, just keep asserting your feelings one situation at a time.
This will help you to feel more and more confident as time goes on.
It is important to keep communicating your feelings clearly during your teen years with your friends and peers.
This way, the other person won't be as likely to hurt you and you will have an open and frank discussion about your feelings so that you don't get hurt by this person in the future.
Now this is true empowerment if you ask me!
Others will intimidate us and make us feel out of control.
And this can make us feel a lot worse about ourselves and as a result we won't be able to act as confidently in real situations.
There may be times you may be afraid to show your peers and friends how you honestly feel because you think they won't accept you.
But this will only further disempower you.
Feelings and thoughts are different but they're also similar.
They are like the head and tail of a coin.
You react to events with both thoughts and feelings.
Feelings are emotions, and sensations, and they are different from thoughts, beliefs, and convictions.
When difficult feelings are expressed, the sharp edges are dulled.
Here are a few tips to express your feelings openly and honestly without worrying about what others think.
1.
Try to be specific rather than general about how you feel with your peers.
Don't use one or two words to express how you're feeling in the situation.
The more specific you can be, the more you will dissuade any of the negative impacts of their behaviour and responses on you.
2.
Clarify for yourself and the other person precisely how you feel.
If you're angry, remove yourself from the immediate situation to neutralize your feelings.
It is far better that you take a breather and resume contact with this person at a later date.
3.
Prevent feelings from building up and festering.
Always try to deal with your feelings before they become out of control.
This will give you the control that you need to deal with these feelings and you will gain a lot of self-knowledge as well.
4.
Communicate difficult feelings in a manner that minimizes the other person's need to become defensive, and increases the likelihood that the person will listen.
If you find this difficult, just keep asserting your feelings one situation at a time.
This will help you to feel more and more confident as time goes on.
It is important to keep communicating your feelings clearly during your teen years with your friends and peers.
This way, the other person won't be as likely to hurt you and you will have an open and frank discussion about your feelings so that you don't get hurt by this person in the future.
Now this is true empowerment if you ask me!
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