Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!
What do you call a woman who…? Wwoe! I'm sorry, if you are an unwed mother, or the child of one, I again suggest that you don't read any further because it will just piss you off! If you choose to continue, I, of course, am not talking about you or your Mama, I'm talking about the other person and their Mama. Now, whatever I call whoever, "Let's Call It What It Is!" Shall we?
You can sugar coat the name of what you would call a woman who has done this, all you want. I'm going to be straight up and call a women, who chooses to follow through with such actions, a dumb-ass b****! Don't think so? Well check out this story and you tell me what you would call her. What would you do to avoid what I call "The Avoidable…?" Why are so many not avoiding inevitable catastrophes? Hmmmm.
Before beginning, understand that this is an analogous story. If you are unsure of what some of the phrases represent, refer to the legend at the end of the story. Enjoy but more importantly, do something about it!
CHOICES
PARTNER A hangs-out with PARTNER B. Any idiot can see that PARTNER B ain't of the highest quality! PARTNER B drinks, smokes, uses drugs and has a stranglehold on the use of 4 letter words; PARTNER B never made it beyond High School (Hell, since we are on a roll, PARTNER B is a High School Drop out!). PARTNER B is tatted-up, unemployed (underground economics do not count, no matter how much money PARTNER B makes!), couldn't speak in a complete sentences to save their life and can't even spell "book" let alone read one! If PARTNER B hasn't been in prison then PARTNER B is sure to eventually land there given the activities PARTNER B engages (underground economics). Oh, but wait a minute, I'm sorry! PARTNER B does have some high quality traits! PARTNER B is cute, wears all the "flyest" clothes and here's the clincher… PARTNER B can Rap! Boy, I tell ya, who wouldn't want to pass on those traits to the next generation! In case you didn't catch that last jab at PARTNER B, I was being facetious.
Now, STOP RIGHT HERE!!! Do we need to go over the type of household PARTNER B grew-up in? Do you see a pattern here or am I the only one?! No one expects to raise a "PARTNER B type" but its amazing how unwed mothers have a tremendous, highly probable, track record of doing just that. PARTNER A has a chance to break the cycle right here by not linking-up with a loser but PARTNER A chooses not to!
None-the-less, PARTNER A still hangs-out with PARTNER B. PARTNER B is cool, all the homies "in the street" like PARTNER B and on top of it all, PARTNER B is nice to PARTNER A. Wow! What more could you ask for in a PARTNER B? To PARTNER A, PARTNER B can do no wrong and is wonderful (Of course, PARTNER A overlooks the fact that PARTNER B is dumb-as- F@$# and has the mental demeanor of a 17 year old)! PARTNER A is now so smitten by PARTNER B that PARTNER A engages in some of the same activities as PARTNER B.
Taking matters further, one day PARTNER B convinces PARTNER A they should rob a store together. PARTNER B swears up and down to PARTNER A that nothing will go wrong, that they will be right beside each other through the entire stint, that everything will be fine. In fact, things will be so fine that they will want to do it again and again into the conceivable (my word not PARTNER B's; remember PARTNER B is illiterate) future. PARTNER A, caught-up in the moment, agrees to be a willing participant in robbing the store with PARTNER B.
STOP RIGHT HERE!!! Did PARTNER A have to move forward with that decision? Did PARTNER B put a gun to PARTNER A's head? I do not think so. PARTNER A chose to participate. Was this a smart decision on PARTNER A's part or a dumb-ass one? Email me later if you really want me to answer that question.
WHHOOOPPS! The robbery went terribly wrong; nothing went according to plan! I guess that is what PARTNER A gets for going along with the brilliant (again, if you didn't catch it, I was being facetious) PARTNER B. All the precautions they thought (well actually, PARTNER A thought) were in place to prevent them from getting caught in the act were falsehoods from the get-go! To make matters worse, PARTNER B took off at the first sign of trouble, unannounced to PARTNER A! As PARTNER A was making a get-away, PARTNER A became surrounded by the authorities everywhere, caught red-handed, with the evidence from the robbery! A VERY small portion of the cash (PARTNER B got most of it), ALL the tools to break into the store, PARTNER A's fingerprints all over the store and witnesses seeing only PARTNER A as the offender.
An interesting note: PARTNER A could have "dropped" everything when PARTNER A realized that PARTNER B was of no help in carrying some of the load up to, and during, the robbery. Daaaahh! If PARTNER A could not see that PARTNER B was not available for basic assistance with the load, coupled with PARTNER B's other traits as a loser then why the hell proceed with the robbery? Hhuuummm, again, these are not the actions of a smart person. What was the term I used earlier, to describe this type of person? Hint, the word smart was not in the phrase.
The authorities take PARTNER A downtown to ask questions about what happen. PARTNER A screams to high heaven that PARTNER B was an accomplice. And you know what? PARTNER A is absolutely right but PARTNER B is not in custody, PARTNER A's stupid ass is. However, accomplice or not is neither here nor there because it was PARTNER A's stupid ass caught with all the evidence, it will be PARTNER A's stupid ass that will go to prison, sentenced to 18 years to life for a crime PARTNER A could have avoided but chose not too!
This is not the worst of it. The "crime" that PARTNER A's stupid ass committed ("created") is not just PARTNER A's problem. Being shortsighted and not too bright did not realize that it is now all of our (society's) problem. It's all of our problem because those of us who were doing what we were suppose to do (getting an education, in order to obtain a real job, to pay taxes and support a family) will now be forced to take care of (through working people's tax dollars) this "crime" we were smart enough to avoid but PARTNER A was to stupid to articulate!
PARTNER A could have had their sentence commuted to "time served" if PARTNER A only admitted that they f@%# -up but instead kept blaming everyone else for the "crime" they could have avoided thus holding on to the "crime" for life. The "time served" would still be a felony, but sealed by the courts and revealed to no one except by PARTNER A if PARTNER A ever desired to do so. Okay, the "crime" has been committed, let the downward cycle continue! Now, in looking at PARTNER A and PARTNER B, how would you rank the quality of what they produced? Any bets on if this "crime" will repeat the cycle?
For all those who say, "PARTNER B is also guilty and should now take responsibility for this ‘crime' after-the-fact," I say, "chew on this" for a second! Yea, PARTNER B is guilty too but it was not PARTNER B's stupid ass holding all the evidence and forced to take a bid for their actions. Any intelligent person could see that PARTNER B is irresponsible and a loser from the beginning. It would be totally naive and foolish to believe that trash, of "PARTNER B's type," are now going to do a miraculous 180° turn and become responsible, law abiding, citizens! Are there occurrences of such possibilities happening? Of course there are but I'm not stupid enough to wear my knees out in believing that hoping, wishing and praying, AFTER-THE-FACT, is the way to solve problems. Also remember that PARTNER B is the product (a tremendous probability) of a "PARTNER A type" who could have eliminated the PARTNER B from the beginning if that "PARTNER A type" was smart! That "PARTNER A type" chose to continue the f@$# -up cycle! Does anyone see a pattern here?
Isn't it strange how so many PARTNER A's are now "Saved," AFTER-THE-FACT, find Jesus and the church to help them, certainly not all but a lot? What was PARTNER A looking for before the illegitimate kid came along? I betcha it wasn't Jesus and the church!
LEGEND
PARTNER A - The Woman
PARTNER B - The Loser (Guy)
The "crime" - The bastard child
The Store - Society as a whole
The Stolen Money - Represents a good time: the Loser-a lot; the Woman-a little or none
The Evidence - PARTNER A's pregnancy
Robbing - Yes, "PARTNER A" & "PARTNER B" have sex but it is PARTNER A that DECIDES to GIVE BIRTH AND KEEP the child thus draining Society through government social programs; "Robbing" the taxpayers.
"Dropped" - Abortion
The 18yr. Sentence - The legal release age of parental obligations
The Authorities - Social Workers and other Government Agencies
The Witnesses - Taxpaying Citizens
"Time Served" - Putting the child up for Adoption.
The whole purpose of the previous story is to illustrate that if PARTNER A is dumb enough to hook-up with a PARTNER B, PARTNER A should get what PARTNER A deserves especially when the signs are clear! Stupid people get what stupid people deserve. If PARTNER A is not able to identify the fallacies of a PARTNER B then PARTNER A should smack PARTNER A's Mama for not providing a role model (a.k.a. a father in the household) or at least an example of what not to become in the form of a deadbeat dad.
Now, if you are a woman and respond that you did not have the role model in the household or thanking God for not having the in-house deadbeat dad examples to reference then that's fine! This epiphany should be a glaring red flag of pertinent information, to any half-whited person not to mention an intelligent one! This red flag should tell you that you are not qualified to get into a relationship, without some serious reconditioning, because you did not come from a background, with any experience, where one succeeded. This same red flag should be telling you that you definitely shouldn't procreate (right now) because garbage (experiences) begets garbage (outcomes) and one cannot teach what one does not know! What are you going to teach a child, as it pertains to relationships? How to succeed in viable family structure based on all the years you experienced growing-up in one? If you did not growing-up in one, you will more than likely teach (subconsciously) the child, by default, how to F@$# -up the next generation, just as your parents did before you. Now, does anyone see a pattern here?! The cycle breaks and stops with you, not everyone else… YOU!
Usually, I'm not one to give up on people but in this case, it's too late for change. It's too late for unwed mothers and their adult children to change their mindset, or attitude about illegitimate births, and how that negatively affects society as a whole because this is the only life they have known. How can you expect someone to change life directions voluntarily, sacrificing for the greater good, when it causes a tremendous amount of pain? I don't expect it, do you? It takes a very special person to mustard up that selfless courage. The average person is not willing, let alone a mother, to endure that type of pain and suffering; it would destroy them. Taking on that level of responsibility would be like the Pilot of a F15 Fighter Jet attempting to do two, instant, 90° turns, at Mach 1. Unless there has been a change in the laws of physics, I am unaware of, that type of dramatic shift would destroy the aircraft just as a dramatic psychological shift would mentally cripple a Human Being! The damage is done, psyches are crystallized and unwed mothers do not have an interest in changing the status quo. To do so would destroy their ego and compromise their parental credibility with their children. All their years of "Saving Face" (a method of psychological protection [denial] to try to keep from looking stupid [pain] to their children or to society as a whole) would be for not and seen as a lie. Again, the average mother is not willing to endure that type of pain. However, if the rest of us, who do not have illegitimate children, can internalize what I am attempting to convey here then, maybe together, we can alter the mindset of the next generation. Altering their minds to such a degree that they will reject this blatant, selfish, disregard for the future prosperity of our race, community, society and, oh yea, the child.
I believe in eliminating toxic problems before they start. You may interpret the previous statement any way you like (the man, the new life, the women, etc.). Whichever way you decide (yea, you do have choices… it's amazing isn't it!), at the end of the day, there is nothing toxic to take care of because there is nothing toxic created (the relationship, sex, pregnancy, birth, etc.). What a concept! You would think more people would look into it!
To all the women out there still wondering, "WHAT!" let me put it to you this way. DON'T KEEP COMPANY WITH LOSERS! My mother told me a statement that her mother told her long before she married my father. My grandmother told her, "It is just as easy to fall in love with a rich [not just in financial terms] man as it is with a poor man. So do yourself a favor and keep company with people of that measure." Acknowledging another person's presence, without the need to associate with them on a frequent basis, is still being cordial without being snooty. Otherwise, if you lay down with dogs you get…. Birds of a feather, flock…. If you hangout with _______ then you will end up a _______ subconsciously just by association.
So, if the man ain't worth sh** then what does that make you… by association? If it takes your not having sex with him and, God forbid, getting pregnant by this loser then, damn-it, that's what you gotta do!! When you choose to do these things anyway than I MUST refer to you as the term I used in the opening paragraphs because intelligent people see the long-term affects today instead of trying to find Jesus, AFTER-THE-FACT, later!
SOLUTION
One way to solve this problem before it starts is to imbed into little girls psyche that being a "PARTNER A" is stupid-as-hell. When the little girl becomes older and encounters a "PARTNER B type," PARTNER B's profile is so far off the radar of what a quality partner encompasses that a PARTNER B won't even get the time of day!
Okay, with all that said, what's the obstacle? MAMA! Mama ain't going to tell the daughter this because that will make Mama look stupid and we've already established that Mama has too much pride to do the right thing! It can be everyone else's fault except Mama's Fault! Yea, right! If you get this issue out the way, you may have a chance. I'm taking suggestions.
You can sugar coat the name of what you would call a woman who has done this, all you want. I'm going to be straight up and call a women, who chooses to follow through with such actions, a dumb-ass b****! Don't think so? Well check out this story and you tell me what you would call her. What would you do to avoid what I call "The Avoidable…?" Why are so many not avoiding inevitable catastrophes? Hmmmm.
Before beginning, understand that this is an analogous story. If you are unsure of what some of the phrases represent, refer to the legend at the end of the story. Enjoy but more importantly, do something about it!
CHOICES
PARTNER A hangs-out with PARTNER B. Any idiot can see that PARTNER B ain't of the highest quality! PARTNER B drinks, smokes, uses drugs and has a stranglehold on the use of 4 letter words; PARTNER B never made it beyond High School (Hell, since we are on a roll, PARTNER B is a High School Drop out!). PARTNER B is tatted-up, unemployed (underground economics do not count, no matter how much money PARTNER B makes!), couldn't speak in a complete sentences to save their life and can't even spell "book" let alone read one! If PARTNER B hasn't been in prison then PARTNER B is sure to eventually land there given the activities PARTNER B engages (underground economics). Oh, but wait a minute, I'm sorry! PARTNER B does have some high quality traits! PARTNER B is cute, wears all the "flyest" clothes and here's the clincher… PARTNER B can Rap! Boy, I tell ya, who wouldn't want to pass on those traits to the next generation! In case you didn't catch that last jab at PARTNER B, I was being facetious.
Now, STOP RIGHT HERE!!! Do we need to go over the type of household PARTNER B grew-up in? Do you see a pattern here or am I the only one?! No one expects to raise a "PARTNER B type" but its amazing how unwed mothers have a tremendous, highly probable, track record of doing just that. PARTNER A has a chance to break the cycle right here by not linking-up with a loser but PARTNER A chooses not to!
None-the-less, PARTNER A still hangs-out with PARTNER B. PARTNER B is cool, all the homies "in the street" like PARTNER B and on top of it all, PARTNER B is nice to PARTNER A. Wow! What more could you ask for in a PARTNER B? To PARTNER A, PARTNER B can do no wrong and is wonderful (Of course, PARTNER A overlooks the fact that PARTNER B is dumb-as- F@$# and has the mental demeanor of a 17 year old)! PARTNER A is now so smitten by PARTNER B that PARTNER A engages in some of the same activities as PARTNER B.
Taking matters further, one day PARTNER B convinces PARTNER A they should rob a store together. PARTNER B swears up and down to PARTNER A that nothing will go wrong, that they will be right beside each other through the entire stint, that everything will be fine. In fact, things will be so fine that they will want to do it again and again into the conceivable (my word not PARTNER B's; remember PARTNER B is illiterate) future. PARTNER A, caught-up in the moment, agrees to be a willing participant in robbing the store with PARTNER B.
STOP RIGHT HERE!!! Did PARTNER A have to move forward with that decision? Did PARTNER B put a gun to PARTNER A's head? I do not think so. PARTNER A chose to participate. Was this a smart decision on PARTNER A's part or a dumb-ass one? Email me later if you really want me to answer that question.
WHHOOOPPS! The robbery went terribly wrong; nothing went according to plan! I guess that is what PARTNER A gets for going along with the brilliant (again, if you didn't catch it, I was being facetious) PARTNER B. All the precautions they thought (well actually, PARTNER A thought) were in place to prevent them from getting caught in the act were falsehoods from the get-go! To make matters worse, PARTNER B took off at the first sign of trouble, unannounced to PARTNER A! As PARTNER A was making a get-away, PARTNER A became surrounded by the authorities everywhere, caught red-handed, with the evidence from the robbery! A VERY small portion of the cash (PARTNER B got most of it), ALL the tools to break into the store, PARTNER A's fingerprints all over the store and witnesses seeing only PARTNER A as the offender.
An interesting note: PARTNER A could have "dropped" everything when PARTNER A realized that PARTNER B was of no help in carrying some of the load up to, and during, the robbery. Daaaahh! If PARTNER A could not see that PARTNER B was not available for basic assistance with the load, coupled with PARTNER B's other traits as a loser then why the hell proceed with the robbery? Hhuuummm, again, these are not the actions of a smart person. What was the term I used earlier, to describe this type of person? Hint, the word smart was not in the phrase.
The authorities take PARTNER A downtown to ask questions about what happen. PARTNER A screams to high heaven that PARTNER B was an accomplice. And you know what? PARTNER A is absolutely right but PARTNER B is not in custody, PARTNER A's stupid ass is. However, accomplice or not is neither here nor there because it was PARTNER A's stupid ass caught with all the evidence, it will be PARTNER A's stupid ass that will go to prison, sentenced to 18 years to life for a crime PARTNER A could have avoided but chose not too!
This is not the worst of it. The "crime" that PARTNER A's stupid ass committed ("created") is not just PARTNER A's problem. Being shortsighted and not too bright did not realize that it is now all of our (society's) problem. It's all of our problem because those of us who were doing what we were suppose to do (getting an education, in order to obtain a real job, to pay taxes and support a family) will now be forced to take care of (through working people's tax dollars) this "crime" we were smart enough to avoid but PARTNER A was to stupid to articulate!
PARTNER A could have had their sentence commuted to "time served" if PARTNER A only admitted that they f@%# -up but instead kept blaming everyone else for the "crime" they could have avoided thus holding on to the "crime" for life. The "time served" would still be a felony, but sealed by the courts and revealed to no one except by PARTNER A if PARTNER A ever desired to do so. Okay, the "crime" has been committed, let the downward cycle continue! Now, in looking at PARTNER A and PARTNER B, how would you rank the quality of what they produced? Any bets on if this "crime" will repeat the cycle?
For all those who say, "PARTNER B is also guilty and should now take responsibility for this ‘crime' after-the-fact," I say, "chew on this" for a second! Yea, PARTNER B is guilty too but it was not PARTNER B's stupid ass holding all the evidence and forced to take a bid for their actions. Any intelligent person could see that PARTNER B is irresponsible and a loser from the beginning. It would be totally naive and foolish to believe that trash, of "PARTNER B's type," are now going to do a miraculous 180° turn and become responsible, law abiding, citizens! Are there occurrences of such possibilities happening? Of course there are but I'm not stupid enough to wear my knees out in believing that hoping, wishing and praying, AFTER-THE-FACT, is the way to solve problems. Also remember that PARTNER B is the product (a tremendous probability) of a "PARTNER A type" who could have eliminated the PARTNER B from the beginning if that "PARTNER A type" was smart! That "PARTNER A type" chose to continue the f@$# -up cycle! Does anyone see a pattern here?
Isn't it strange how so many PARTNER A's are now "Saved," AFTER-THE-FACT, find Jesus and the church to help them, certainly not all but a lot? What was PARTNER A looking for before the illegitimate kid came along? I betcha it wasn't Jesus and the church!
LEGEND
PARTNER A - The Woman
PARTNER B - The Loser (Guy)
The "crime" - The bastard child
The Store - Society as a whole
The Stolen Money - Represents a good time: the Loser-a lot; the Woman-a little or none
The Evidence - PARTNER A's pregnancy
Robbing - Yes, "PARTNER A" & "PARTNER B" have sex but it is PARTNER A that DECIDES to GIVE BIRTH AND KEEP the child thus draining Society through government social programs; "Robbing" the taxpayers.
"Dropped" - Abortion
The 18yr. Sentence - The legal release age of parental obligations
The Authorities - Social Workers and other Government Agencies
The Witnesses - Taxpaying Citizens
"Time Served" - Putting the child up for Adoption.
The whole purpose of the previous story is to illustrate that if PARTNER A is dumb enough to hook-up with a PARTNER B, PARTNER A should get what PARTNER A deserves especially when the signs are clear! Stupid people get what stupid people deserve. If PARTNER A is not able to identify the fallacies of a PARTNER B then PARTNER A should smack PARTNER A's Mama for not providing a role model (a.k.a. a father in the household) or at least an example of what not to become in the form of a deadbeat dad.
Now, if you are a woman and respond that you did not have the role model in the household or thanking God for not having the in-house deadbeat dad examples to reference then that's fine! This epiphany should be a glaring red flag of pertinent information, to any half-whited person not to mention an intelligent one! This red flag should tell you that you are not qualified to get into a relationship, without some serious reconditioning, because you did not come from a background, with any experience, where one succeeded. This same red flag should be telling you that you definitely shouldn't procreate (right now) because garbage (experiences) begets garbage (outcomes) and one cannot teach what one does not know! What are you going to teach a child, as it pertains to relationships? How to succeed in viable family structure based on all the years you experienced growing-up in one? If you did not growing-up in one, you will more than likely teach (subconsciously) the child, by default, how to F@$# -up the next generation, just as your parents did before you. Now, does anyone see a pattern here?! The cycle breaks and stops with you, not everyone else… YOU!
Usually, I'm not one to give up on people but in this case, it's too late for change. It's too late for unwed mothers and their adult children to change their mindset, or attitude about illegitimate births, and how that negatively affects society as a whole because this is the only life they have known. How can you expect someone to change life directions voluntarily, sacrificing for the greater good, when it causes a tremendous amount of pain? I don't expect it, do you? It takes a very special person to mustard up that selfless courage. The average person is not willing, let alone a mother, to endure that type of pain and suffering; it would destroy them. Taking on that level of responsibility would be like the Pilot of a F15 Fighter Jet attempting to do two, instant, 90° turns, at Mach 1. Unless there has been a change in the laws of physics, I am unaware of, that type of dramatic shift would destroy the aircraft just as a dramatic psychological shift would mentally cripple a Human Being! The damage is done, psyches are crystallized and unwed mothers do not have an interest in changing the status quo. To do so would destroy their ego and compromise their parental credibility with their children. All their years of "Saving Face" (a method of psychological protection [denial] to try to keep from looking stupid [pain] to their children or to society as a whole) would be for not and seen as a lie. Again, the average mother is not willing to endure that type of pain. However, if the rest of us, who do not have illegitimate children, can internalize what I am attempting to convey here then, maybe together, we can alter the mindset of the next generation. Altering their minds to such a degree that they will reject this blatant, selfish, disregard for the future prosperity of our race, community, society and, oh yea, the child.
I believe in eliminating toxic problems before they start. You may interpret the previous statement any way you like (the man, the new life, the women, etc.). Whichever way you decide (yea, you do have choices… it's amazing isn't it!), at the end of the day, there is nothing toxic to take care of because there is nothing toxic created (the relationship, sex, pregnancy, birth, etc.). What a concept! You would think more people would look into it!
To all the women out there still wondering, "WHAT!" let me put it to you this way. DON'T KEEP COMPANY WITH LOSERS! My mother told me a statement that her mother told her long before she married my father. My grandmother told her, "It is just as easy to fall in love with a rich [not just in financial terms] man as it is with a poor man. So do yourself a favor and keep company with people of that measure." Acknowledging another person's presence, without the need to associate with them on a frequent basis, is still being cordial without being snooty. Otherwise, if you lay down with dogs you get…. Birds of a feather, flock…. If you hangout with _______ then you will end up a _______ subconsciously just by association.
So, if the man ain't worth sh** then what does that make you… by association? If it takes your not having sex with him and, God forbid, getting pregnant by this loser then, damn-it, that's what you gotta do!! When you choose to do these things anyway than I MUST refer to you as the term I used in the opening paragraphs because intelligent people see the long-term affects today instead of trying to find Jesus, AFTER-THE-FACT, later!
SOLUTION
One way to solve this problem before it starts is to imbed into little girls psyche that being a "PARTNER A" is stupid-as-hell. When the little girl becomes older and encounters a "PARTNER B type," PARTNER B's profile is so far off the radar of what a quality partner encompasses that a PARTNER B won't even get the time of day!
Okay, with all that said, what's the obstacle? MAMA! Mama ain't going to tell the daughter this because that will make Mama look stupid and we've already established that Mama has too much pride to do the right thing! It can be everyone else's fault except Mama's Fault! Yea, right! If you get this issue out the way, you may have a chance. I'm taking suggestions.
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