Defiant Children - Why Children Misbehave
In this article, we'll take a look at why children misbehave and I'll give you some pointers, to how you can minimize defiant behavior.
The toddler age is the period where most children shown defiant behavior.
It often has something do to with the fact that the child is in an age where it suddenly can do all kinds of things itself, but still, there's a lot of things it cannot do.
I'm sure you can relate to this in some way or another.
Maybe you aren't so good with computers and maybe you know how frustrating it can be when you don't know how to perform a simple task on your PC.
I certainly do...
The toddler age is an age where you must be conscious about everything you do, when you are around your children.
This is the age where you'll build your child's values and principles.
But...
it's not always easy to keep your cool when your house suddenly is turned into a war zone that would make WW2 look like a picnic.
The best way to deal with your children defiance is to learn some simple techniques that you can use to regain control over the situation.
Most of the time, children misbehave because they want attention.
They're not always aware it themselves, but almost all the time, they want some kind of validation from you.
The key here is to acknowledge when it's wise to give them attention and when you should "punish them" (never hit your children or abuse your size in any other way, there are way better methods to discipline your children).
If you punish your child too often, she might stop misbehave, but later in life, she will experience problems in life as a direct result of your punishment.
On the other hand, if you never punish her, she'll most likely misbehave throughout the rest of her life.
Had you ever had a boss that was nothing but a "grown-up" bully? Such a person probably never had to deal with the consequences of his or hers action as a child.
As parents, we often punish the child when it has done something we disapprove of, but sadly, most of us forget to praise the child whenever he or she did something good.
If you don't praise your child, how can she know when she has done something good? And if the only way she can get attention is by misbehaving, what do you think she'll do? As I stated earlier, the main reason children misbehave is that they want attention.
If you're a busy person and work a lot, then you might not always have much time to your children when you come home.
If that's the case, then I have a suggestion to you...
Instead of spending your time arguing and punishing your children (and walk around with a bad conscience almost all the time) take half an hour every day when you get home and sit down with your child and play...
The benefits from doing so are enormous.
Not only will you get to know your child on a whole other level, but you'll also get a chance to understand what's going on in her life.
Children sees the world in another way than us adults and another benefit from playing with your children, is that it can actually give you great ideas that you can use on your job or in other areas of your life.
The toddler age is the period where most children shown defiant behavior.
It often has something do to with the fact that the child is in an age where it suddenly can do all kinds of things itself, but still, there's a lot of things it cannot do.
I'm sure you can relate to this in some way or another.
Maybe you aren't so good with computers and maybe you know how frustrating it can be when you don't know how to perform a simple task on your PC.
I certainly do...
The toddler age is an age where you must be conscious about everything you do, when you are around your children.
This is the age where you'll build your child's values and principles.
But...
it's not always easy to keep your cool when your house suddenly is turned into a war zone that would make WW2 look like a picnic.
The best way to deal with your children defiance is to learn some simple techniques that you can use to regain control over the situation.
Most of the time, children misbehave because they want attention.
They're not always aware it themselves, but almost all the time, they want some kind of validation from you.
The key here is to acknowledge when it's wise to give them attention and when you should "punish them" (never hit your children or abuse your size in any other way, there are way better methods to discipline your children).
If you punish your child too often, she might stop misbehave, but later in life, she will experience problems in life as a direct result of your punishment.
On the other hand, if you never punish her, she'll most likely misbehave throughout the rest of her life.
Had you ever had a boss that was nothing but a "grown-up" bully? Such a person probably never had to deal with the consequences of his or hers action as a child.
As parents, we often punish the child when it has done something we disapprove of, but sadly, most of us forget to praise the child whenever he or she did something good.
If you don't praise your child, how can she know when she has done something good? And if the only way she can get attention is by misbehaving, what do you think she'll do? As I stated earlier, the main reason children misbehave is that they want attention.
If you're a busy person and work a lot, then you might not always have much time to your children when you come home.
If that's the case, then I have a suggestion to you...
Instead of spending your time arguing and punishing your children (and walk around with a bad conscience almost all the time) take half an hour every day when you get home and sit down with your child and play...
The benefits from doing so are enormous.
Not only will you get to know your child on a whole other level, but you'll also get a chance to understand what's going on in her life.
Children sees the world in another way than us adults and another benefit from playing with your children, is that it can actually give you great ideas that you can use on your job or in other areas of your life.
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