Websites that only serve gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered folk could be a safer option for you if you are not out yet ; it's less sure that someone that doesn't know your alignment will find you there by accident.
  In addition, the amount of potential matches might be higher when the site caters particularly to your interests and wants.
  Ultimately, sites that focus on lesbian and gay dating make it better to avoid folks not of your alignment who might be assertive about chasing a date with you anyway.
  Lesbians particularly may face this problem on sites that also deal with heterosexuals.
  Maybe the toughest part of web dating is writing your profile.
  Lots of the advice out there for writing a profile is universal : be truthful.
  Be funny.
  Spell check.
  It's easy advice, but that simplicity can be deceitful.
  Lesbians and gays looking to date online should have a clear concept of what they desire without limiting themselves so much that they prompt failure.
  You will have a leaning towards black hair and blue eyes, but is a redhead really a deal breaker?  And while your obscure hobby could be necessary to you, is it something that you expect a potential date or pal to share so much that you've got to mention it in your profile?  It's best to spend a bit looking at other gay and lesbian dating profiles to get some idea of what to do and what not to do.
  Also, don't be scared to enroll chums to help.
  Do be truthful.
Do not lie about your height.
  Do not lie about your body type.
  Do not lie about your education or career.
  Do talk about how out you are and do not use phrases that are gay and lesbian negative like "straight acting.
" a scarcity of truthfulness will only lead to discontentment when you meet a potential match face to face.
  It could also suggest that you are insecure and could have trust issues.
  If there's chemistry, early fibs in your profile could be a danger sign that works against you.
  When online dating, you would like somebody to choose you for who you are, not for who you wish you were.
  Whatever what the gay and lesbian dating site you choose says, posting a picture isn't optional.
  Without a picture you aren't going to get quality responses.
  And it is not because folks are insubstantial.
  ( Which is positively fine.
  Remember you want to find the person you date fascinating also.
  ) footage can tell you a lot about someone, from private style to self esteem, that means selecting the correct photograph for your dating profile is critical.
  First, don't use a photograph more than 2 years old.
  The same hair color and length is in your own interest.
  If you often wear glasses, wear glasses in your photograph.
  Among other stuff, remember this photograph will help you identify your date should you decide to meet in real life.
  Second, remember this photograph is all about you.
  Do not post something with a busy or distracting background or a large quantity of glare.
  A photograph of you doing something you love or at a special event is fine, but guarantee you're the middle of attention in the image, which fully shouldn't contain people.
  Ultimately, select your photograph with plan.
  If you're searching for over an informal hook-up or summer fling, do not post an image in a skimpy outfit or a suggestive pose.
  Flirtatious is fine, but boldly sexual would possibly not be the right route if you're trying to find a romantic relationship.
  Do not simply wait for people to come to you on a gay and lesbian dating site.
  If you see someone you are curious about, tell them what you enjoyed about their profile and ask them to test out yours.
  Don't barrage your potential match with questions, but make sure you ask one or two in the expectation of opening a dialog.
  Then, if you have a great relations, you can suggest chatting on the phone or perhaps meeting head to head.
  Remember that dating can be difficult work, and serendipity can play a giant part.
  You could have to go on many dates a week for a time period to find the best person for you, or you will get fortunate and meet the correct person for you at the beginning of your search.
  Don't get discouraged.
  If one lesbian and gay dating site isn't working for you, don't hesitate to try another.