Fixing breakups is not impossible, but most people have no idea where to start and end up making their situation more painful and frustrating than necessary. With a little bit of guidance you can get through this tough time, and very possibly get back together with your ex. But you need to be aware of what mistakes to avoid so you can improve your chances of a successful reunion.

The biggest mistake most people make when fixing breakups is they rush in blindly without a plan. Fear of losing the one you love can cause you to feel a lot of anxiety, even panic. These panicky feelings can influence you to resort to desperate behaviors you normally wouldn't do. But these desperate behaviors are what will push your ex away and ruin any chances of getting back together. No one likes to be pressured and your ex is no different. Step number one is getting your panicky emotions under control so you can come up with a plan.

Once you've started to calm down and get your emotions under control, it's time to plan your next move. You probably plan for other things in your life that are important don't you? If you were to move, change careers, or go on a vacation you would plan those things out. For some reason, people think they don't need a plan when it comes to fixing breakups. They think they can just "wing it" and express how they feel and everything will naturally work out. Sometimes it works that way. Usually it doesn't... that's why you need a plan!

Let's start with what you should not be doing:

Stop any behavior that your ex could interpret as being needy or desperate. The more needy and insecure you act, the more it will drive them away. This includes calling every day, writing love letters, trying to talk them into getting back together, crying, pleading... you get the point.

Now is not the time to open up and express how much you love them. This is another common mistake most people make when fixing breakups. There will be plenty of time to express your feelings once the two of you are back together. Right now is the time to concentrate on getting your ex to miss you and be attracted to you. Throwing yourself at them and making yourself completely available only makes your ex take you for granted and pushes them away.

Instead, stop pushing to get back together and give the relationship a break. Show your ex that you're doing great without them. Don't contact them for a few weeks. This will give them time to miss you and they will be much more open to getting back together. No situation is impossible... people are fixing breakups every day and so can you. You just need to approach this with a smart plan and don't make the mistake of acting too desperate.