After you've signed the divorce papers, the messy part begins.
What will you do now that you are on your own once more? What will your next move be? How are you going to treat your ex? What will be his/her role now that you two have finally put an end to your marriage? There are actually too many questions and each question leads to another - which makes the situation a lot crazier than it should be.
Yes.
Divorce is difficult, but dealing with the new fact, as it sinks in, is more difficult.
This is a fact.
It needs to be accepted and embraced.
How to get along with your ex after divorce is the topic at hand.
So, how do you want to get along with your ex? Do you want to be friendly? Do you prefer to be business like? Or do you want to rage war every time you get along? I will assume that you wish to have a peaceful relationship with your ex and that you prefer being friendly.
And, if being friendly is not considered an option, you would at least want to be civil.
How will you be able to do this? You two need to sit and talk things through.
There will be a lot of issues you two need to fix and agree upon.
From simple things such as "Who will take what from the house?" to major issues such as parenting styles, there are hundreds of issues you two will have to tap.
And you two will have to discuss these together.
Yes.
No matter how disgusted you are, you cannot completely get away from your ex or you cannot completely get your ex out of your life.
You two have just decided that your marriage contract, you two have gracefully signed not so long ago, is now null and void.
That's all.
But everything that happened in between will be the things that you two will have to deal with together.
I have to tell you that these talks will really eat up both your time.
And expect a lot of time will be eaten by these discussions.
There will be disagreements, differences in opinions among many other things.
However, what you need to always remember is to meet in the middle.
Compromise.
That is the best thing you two can do.
Also, try not to talk while your heads are flashing sword fights.
When the two of you are pretty much heated by your differences, which have been the causes of your failed marriage, take time to cool down.
Have a cease fire! You won't be able to end up in a reasonable settlement if you two are angry or possessed by the dark side.
Just breathe and focus on what will make things better and not on how you can bombard your ex partner with explosives.
Once you two have made settlements and compromised agreements, it is time for the two of you to keep your promises.
If you two have agreed that you will take turns in picking up your kids from school, make sure you live up to that agreement.
This is the best thing you can do for your kids.
Keep your promises once and for all.
You've failed to stick with your wedding vows, now try to stick with what you two have agreed with for the sake of your children.
Communication is the key.
Continue to communicate with your ex especially about issues that will concern the people you two have learned to love.
Remember that it's only your marriage contract you two have decided to end, everything and everyone are just in between.
They did not sign that marriage contract.