Want a Man? Be Aware of These 6 Negatives
It does not matter your age, or if this is your first love or your 10th. There are 6 obvious mistakes women make when trying to hook a man. Any one of them can be a turn off and be the last time you will hear from the guy you might be interested in.
Men are not perfect and make a ton of mistakes when meeting a woman for the first time. But that is another story. Let's focus on the mistakes women make when first meeting a man. So I chose as the first blunder women (men are just as bad on this one) is... a failure to listen rather than talking. Remember the song, "You Talk Too Much?" Listening tentatively will tell you more about who you are with than anything you can do. Don't turn into a cop, Ask questions related to the topics you are discussing. Show an interest in what he thinks. Getting to know someone can only be done by listening.
Pace yourself with your excitement when meeting someone you are interested. Guys need space when getting to know someone unless they are after a one night stand. If that is what you are after, get all over him. If it's a more meaningful relationship you want, take your time to get to know this guy. Take small steps so you can tell if his feelings are along the same vain as yours. Think how you respond when some guy over does his "play" on you. What is the difference? I am not suggesting being aloof, rather be interested in him and let a natural exchange of information flow between you.
Remember what you are on the date for. The guy isn't a psychiatrist; he is a man that wants to get to know you. He doesn't want to hear about your ex-boyfriend or how dorky your roommate is. The date should be a positive, fun engagement between two people that want to get to know each other. Keep in mind, you have also opened the door for him to talk about his ex-girlfriend...is that what you want to hear about? I don't think so.
Now this one is touchy and it is all about you. Are you a little on the heavy side? Are you a lot on the heavy side? Men like women that are toned and take care of themselves. When was the last time you went down in a dress size instead up? Do you really think guys don't look at your body? How about your booty? The answer is yes they do. Too shallow for you? You are going to spend a lot of years alone if you think it does not matter. Most women know this. That is why they look good while on the hunt and blow up after they find their man. That is a mistake and one of the main reasons for so many split ups. That is the truth. Get toned and stay that way, you can do it...even after kids.
Next, keep in mind that how you get to know each other is by communicating. It is important to know what to talk about and what not to talk about on the first date. Topics like Obama is such an idiot and is dividing the country might not be a good place to start. Maybe you should stay away from talking about what you think about the Pope. You get the idea. Stay away from the heavy topics that will ruin a date in about one Nano second. I mean quick. It's a man and he need s time to get to know you and your lighter side initially. You will have plenty time to talk about deeper issues that are more defining.
In today's culture asking "gotcha" questions is becoming more popular. It will also piss off a guy to turn on him and give him the third degree. Again, you will have plenty of time to know what is behind the face and words. No one likes to be put on the spot, especially the first time you go out. There are many ways to get information from someone rather than a frontal attack. You may think it saves you time, and you are right. It will give you plenty of time... by yourself. Relax, listen to what he is saying and read between the lines and ask for clarification or that you understand that point of view, but have you considered this...
Keep in mind guys are visual first. They make a ton of decisions quickly. Take your time in telling your issues and ask about him. If he is smart and sensitive too, you could be in for a wonderful night. Be yourself but also think about what you are looking for in a man. The pace of the race is important. Take it easy and make sure you are listening more than you are talking. You will be glad you did.
One thing you can begin immediately to make that first date memorable is BeAPrettyWoman.com, check it out and see what it is!
Men are not perfect and make a ton of mistakes when meeting a woman for the first time. But that is another story. Let's focus on the mistakes women make when first meeting a man. So I chose as the first blunder women (men are just as bad on this one) is... a failure to listen rather than talking. Remember the song, "You Talk Too Much?" Listening tentatively will tell you more about who you are with than anything you can do. Don't turn into a cop, Ask questions related to the topics you are discussing. Show an interest in what he thinks. Getting to know someone can only be done by listening.
Pace yourself with your excitement when meeting someone you are interested. Guys need space when getting to know someone unless they are after a one night stand. If that is what you are after, get all over him. If it's a more meaningful relationship you want, take your time to get to know this guy. Take small steps so you can tell if his feelings are along the same vain as yours. Think how you respond when some guy over does his "play" on you. What is the difference? I am not suggesting being aloof, rather be interested in him and let a natural exchange of information flow between you.
Remember what you are on the date for. The guy isn't a psychiatrist; he is a man that wants to get to know you. He doesn't want to hear about your ex-boyfriend or how dorky your roommate is. The date should be a positive, fun engagement between two people that want to get to know each other. Keep in mind, you have also opened the door for him to talk about his ex-girlfriend...is that what you want to hear about? I don't think so.
Now this one is touchy and it is all about you. Are you a little on the heavy side? Are you a lot on the heavy side? Men like women that are toned and take care of themselves. When was the last time you went down in a dress size instead up? Do you really think guys don't look at your body? How about your booty? The answer is yes they do. Too shallow for you? You are going to spend a lot of years alone if you think it does not matter. Most women know this. That is why they look good while on the hunt and blow up after they find their man. That is a mistake and one of the main reasons for so many split ups. That is the truth. Get toned and stay that way, you can do it...even after kids.
Next, keep in mind that how you get to know each other is by communicating. It is important to know what to talk about and what not to talk about on the first date. Topics like Obama is such an idiot and is dividing the country might not be a good place to start. Maybe you should stay away from talking about what you think about the Pope. You get the idea. Stay away from the heavy topics that will ruin a date in about one Nano second. I mean quick. It's a man and he need s time to get to know you and your lighter side initially. You will have plenty time to talk about deeper issues that are more defining.
In today's culture asking "gotcha" questions is becoming more popular. It will also piss off a guy to turn on him and give him the third degree. Again, you will have plenty of time to know what is behind the face and words. No one likes to be put on the spot, especially the first time you go out. There are many ways to get information from someone rather than a frontal attack. You may think it saves you time, and you are right. It will give you plenty of time... by yourself. Relax, listen to what he is saying and read between the lines and ask for clarification or that you understand that point of view, but have you considered this...
Keep in mind guys are visual first. They make a ton of decisions quickly. Take your time in telling your issues and ask about him. If he is smart and sensitive too, you could be in for a wonderful night. Be yourself but also think about what you are looking for in a man. The pace of the race is important. Take it easy and make sure you are listening more than you are talking. You will be glad you did.
One thing you can begin immediately to make that first date memorable is BeAPrettyWoman.com, check it out and see what it is!
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