Dealing with all of your emotions during a breakup is what makes the whole situation difficult.
You might feel fine one day never thinking about the breakup while the next day you won't be able to function even the slightest bit.
Trying to think clearly, and not react to all of the emotions you are feeling is the best way to come out ahead.
This is the same method I learned about so I could get my ex back.
It is difficult to think with a clear head when you are dealing with so many emotions.
The things that will actually help you out are the same things that you won't feel like doing.
It's time to focus all of your effort on making change in your life for yourself.
When someone in the relationship wants to make some changes in their life, this usually ends up meaning what they want to change is you, and that's when the breakup happens.
Many times the relationship can become the reason the other person isn't happy with the direction their life is going.
This very well could be the truth.
It is important to understand that what your ex is seeking is a change in their life.
It won't help at all to make promises that you'll change, or to resort to begging for forgiveness.
If you don't limit your contact with your ex after the breakup, then you will only succeed in pushing them further away from you.
You have to remember that time is on your side, even though it might not feel as if this is how it is.
Even though it is difficult to spend time away from your ex, it is important that you do so in order to spend some time on yourself making changes in your life.
Now is the perfect opportunity to do the things you have always felt like doing.
Take control of your life and start doing the things you have always wanted to accomplish.
Sign up for guitar lessons, or get a gym membership and start getting in shape, maybe go on a trip somewhere.
By getting out and trying new activities, or accomplishing old tasks that were put on hold, you are moving forward with your life and in turn getting your mind off of your relationship.
When you are doing new things in your life it will be normal to meet new people and make new friends.
What you should be focusing on is to simply to be doing something new and different for yourself to improve who you are.
The time away from your ex will be to your advantage in the long haul.
If you had a really strong relationship at some point in time, then it will be natural for your ex to want to get in touch with you, and find out how you are since it has been a while since you've talked.
Don't talk about your relationship, or getting back together when they contact you to see how you are, because it will probably only end up badly.
To avoid any painful subjects, keep the conversation short and sweet.
Only make small talk with your ex, and avoid at all cost talking for too long by letting your ex know that you don't have much time but you enjoyed seeing them again.
What this will help you accomplish is make your ex believe that you have moved on with your life.
This is not what they were looking to discover by visiting you.
Once they see the changes you have made in your life, and that you are different then perhaps they will eventually come back to you.
It is important to remember that if your ex comes back on their own terms then it was meant to be.