I was in an ending marriage too - one that was completely hopeless.
Yes, I have been in your situation, but I wasn't as smart as you're being right now.
You are reading this article now, which means that you're actively trying to get outside advice on saving  a marriage.
At first, I didn't do that - and my marriage suffered even more because of it.
So, first of all I want to congratulate you for doing this.
When the marriage you have fought so hard for is on the brink of divorce, this is very hard on your mental condition.
Ask any psychologist and he'll tell you that the leading cause for major depressive disorders are spouses who are on the brink of divorce / or have just divorced.
This being the case, it's evident that why seeking outside advice is the right thing to do - you are simply not in the mood to come up with anything good yourself.
What I was taught by outside advice - and what made me save my marriage - was that the first thing to save a marriage was to stop doing the wrong things.
 You can't do the right things and the wrong things at the same time - you have to stop the wrong things first.
And what are they? They are things usually caused by your desperate state of mind.
When in such a state of mind, there is only one thing in your mind: "I must do something before it all falls apart.
" This urge leads you to do the "last resort" things such as crying in front of your spouse (so that he or she'll see how desperate you are) or downright begging.
The problem with this approach is that your spouse has already had enough of you and the marriage.
By "harassing" your spouse with such actions, you are making everything worse.