What is your present struggle?Are you going around in circles trying to hold out for your ex to change or still trying to convince your ex to be with you? The struggle that many face is the emotional and psychological attachment that needs to be severed for good from their ex.
If you are emotionally detached then you won't have the "need" to want your ex back.
But sometimes it takes months or even years to truly disconnect.
We usually will do and say things to keep the emotional connection alive because we want the connection we once had.
That connection is no longer there.
This is why your relationship broke down on the side of the road.
Your job is now to get yourself in the repair shop and let your ex go.
It might feel unnatural to leave someone at the side of the road, but this is what you need to do in order to move ahead with your life.
You may want your ex to still find you attractive, to still care, but you have to make a decision to lay the relationship down.
Living your life out of your past relationship will keep you in bondage to your future.
You will not be able to live the life you were meant to live and you cannot wait for someone to love you in order for your life to be amazing.
Let your emotions pay the price to detach by giving yourself space.
It will literally feel like you are withdrawing from this person much like someone has withdrawal from an addictive substance.
It will be painful and you will want to reach for the thing that brings you comfort and take away your pain.
It may appear that moving towards your ex or the person who wants out will numb your pain but this is a false sense of reality mixed with your fantasy to have a relationship that is really over.
Just like an addictive substance only masks what is taking place beneath the surface.