So, you're still in love with her/him and want to get your ex back no matter what, but your ex wants to keep away? What's the way out? Simple, you keep away as well! It's the best chance you've got to get your ex back! For starters, be ready for the possibility that your ex might get into another relationship shortly after the break up.
These kind of rebound relationships happen often.
But take heart, they usually don't last too long since there's too much baggage attached to them.
If any partner gets into an affair right after a split, it usually means trouble.
Not to mention, more pain and stress for all parties concerned.
Now, in case you're trying to be the good person by continuing to remain friends with your ex while he/she is dating someone else, stop! You are destroying your chances of getting back with your ex! Sure, it's nice for your ex to have you there as a friend, it's comforting and reassuring, but what's in it for you? Did you know that you're probably helping your ex to sustain his/her new affair?! See, your ex doesn't miss you since it's difficult to miss someone who's still around...
He/she has you as an emotional anchor.
So, this gives your ex the freedom to enjoy the new affair and be carefree with his/her new partner.
And the new partner is exciting and fresh, fun to be with and such a novelty, while you are safe and secure, dependable and trustworthy.
You need to draw the line and get out of your ex's life.
Let his/her new partner take care of his/her emotional needs.
The truth is, maybe your ex partner or spouse likes having you around because you've shared so much together and he/she is still fond of you.
But don't confuse fondness with love! Leave.
Walk away and see what happens.
Give your ex a chance to feel your absence, to miss you and wonder how you are, where you are and what you're doing.
Why should you be a part of this triangular mess? You deserve better than this.
You know, most people can't understand or believe that a person can love two people at the same time.
They find it hard to digest that their ex has moved on and entered a new relationship.
It's hurtful and insulting for them.
But experts in psychology will have you know that it's more than possible to love two people simultaneously.
You see, each partner brings something new to the relationship.
So, you may bring a sense of security, while the new partner brings the fun factor! And your ex is in the middle enjoying every bit of it! That's why you need to snap all ties with your ex.
It's the only way out if you want to get him/her back into your life.
Right now, your being there doesn't get your ex out of his/her complacency.
And you have to do that for him/her to realize what's he/she's missing out on.
It's your last and only chance.
Don't lose it.