Even If You Are Ugly, You Can Attract Women

by Joseph Matthews

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my
students is their idea of not being attractive enough to
attract women.

There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as:

They could be too old.

Some men think they are too fat.

They could be too short.

They could be too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it
comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

But lucky for all of us - this simply isn't the case.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths
that hold men back from achieving success in their love
life.

Myth #1 - Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types
of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is
not true.

Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your
physical attractiveness.

What's the difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do
control your presentation of what looks you do have by the
way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell
and the clothes you wear, and so forth.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same
things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you
think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin
and no one knows it is there besides you.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is
obvious.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology
is typically applied.  You judge a woman based on how she
looks, right?  You're able to size a woman up visually and
determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner
as you do her.

This assumption is a mistake.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction
than men do.  That's not to say they don't care if a man is
attractive or not.  But they don't place as much importance
on physical characteristics as us guys do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them
feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social
status and confidence attract women. Men who make them
laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do
attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women,
looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice Men's Insecurities

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the
world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our
every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline,
weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else
can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at
all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you.
If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont
even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Do you know that most women are not aware of your
insecurities and only notice them when you call their
attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather
than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the
attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that
you find negative, you must always face every situation with
a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

That women instinctively generate towards good looking men
is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly
in the beginning being attractive physically does help,
however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection
a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this
connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this
way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to
have you around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is
attracted to him, since her preference of features brings
her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible,
boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn't
initially physically attracted to, and then have him make
her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure -
she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good;
this is one of the basics of attraction.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do
not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.

This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making
her feel good while you are around them.

This is when seduction comes into play.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins
seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings
or looks.