The first thing women tend to ask themselves after a break up is, "How can we get back together?" You find yourself alone and upset, wondering what happened, and how you can "fix" your broken heart, and your broken relationship.
If you really do want him back, don't give up hope.
Don't think that once a relationship ends, it's over for good.
Think about all of your friends who have on-again, off-again style relationships.
There are some very good ways to turn your relationship back into an on-again one, and get your ex-boyfriend back.
One way to get your ex-boyfriend interested again is to develop a true friendship with him.
This might seem like you are doing the wrong thing, you don't want to be his friend, you want to be the love of his life.
In fact, the mistake would be to try to get back with him in a romantic way right after your breakup.
It's not realistic to think that this can happen.
Your ex-boyfriend needs some time and some space, and you should let him have it.
He needs to have time to remember all the good you two shared, and to start to miss it.
However, you don't want to drop out of his life completely, and the best way to make sure that doesn't happen is by being his friend.
You need to remain at a distance when it comes to your emotions, and you need to treat him just as you would any other guy friend.
Warning: This is hard! If you talk to him in person or on the phone, talk to him normally, and never ask about his love life or his dating status.
You need to make sure that you keep those two things separate, and not push him away.
You also need to spend some time focusing on yourself after your relationship stops.
Don't focus on what might have been, what your dreams were, or anything like that.
Just focus on your current reality.
For right now, he's not your boyfriend, so start doing the things you like to do, and show yourself and him that you can live without him.
In fact, you can be happy just fine without him in your life.
Your man wants to be with someone who is emotionally stable, and who wont be needy or clingy when the time comes to give your relationship another try.
You need to present yourself as confident, happy, and mature.
If you do, he'll become more interested, and it will give you the best chance of getting your ex-boyfriend back.