Is your marriage in crisis? Do you think you would know it if it was? What are the typical warning signs? Sometimes a marriage that is in crisis can disguise itself as a mostly normal but mediocre marriage.
Then it may be too late to change it and save it.
Pay close attention to the warning signs of health in your marriage and make sure your partnership is at its strongest.
How is your sex life? A healthy sex life is one of the most crucial parts of a healthy marriage.
A marriage that is in crisis is easily detected by taking a look at your sex life.
How frequently do you have sex? Is it a scheduled, pre-orchestrated deal when you do have sex? Has the spontaneity gone out of your sex life? If you begin to schedule your sexual activity then a marriage can certainly recover.
As a matter of fact, most marriages go through a phase similar to that when a baby is born.
Having children makes it more difficult to find the time to spend with our partner alone, not to mention finding the time to make love.
A marriage in crisis doesn't break out of that pattern.
So, even when the time is available they don't have spontaneous sex.
Most of the time there's not a lot of physical affection shown during the day.
The norm for people in love is to hug and kiss at different times throughout the day.
A loving couple will often touch when they walk by each other.
A loving peck on the cheek or a pat on the behind for no apparent reason might occur.
Is this happening in your marriage? The disappearance of these things can be a sign that the marriage is in trouble.
When common courtesy begins to leave is another sign.
Saying words like "please", "thank you" or "excuse me" should never leave your marriage.
If you use those words to strangers then you should also use them with your spouse.
Don't let the cold attitudes enter in to your marriage by taking your partner for granted in that way.
There is simply no reason not to be affectionate and courteous to our partners everyday.
There is good news! If you spot some of these warning signs, you can begin right now to alleviate them.
There doesn't need to be a huge announcement of major changes going on.
Just do it.
Start by being affectionate and spontaneous.
Be courteous and mannerly just like you did when you were dating.
Make love.
Do these simple things and your marriage in crisis will gain stability and you could be happier than you ever thought possible.