A wonderful and successful marriage is one where you and your spouse are a team with mutual trust, commitment and fidelity being your foundation.
As a team you complement each other so that you achieve much more together then you would have as two single people.
There is a synergy that makes the two of you greater than the combination of the two of you.
But how do you become part of such a team? What are the key attitudes for establishing a wonderful marriage? 1.
Be done with singleness.
Now that you are newly married you need to discard the mindset and attitudes of a single person.
True you still feel the same as you did when you were single but the reality is that you are no longer single and you need to change the way you think and do things.
Do not do this reluctantly or under compulsion from your partner but as an act of love, appreciation and respect for your partner.
Realize that you are now part of a team in life and that means you need to involve your partner in all aspects of your life and you have to be involved in theirs.
This does not mean that you should be their shadow or Siamese twin but it does mean you should be interested in their life and as involved in it as you are both comfortable with.
If you are unhappy with their level of involvement in your life then negotiate a middle ground that you can both live with.
Each marriage has different partners and so your marriage will be unique since you are both unique and so negotiate a participation in each other's home and work life that works for both of you.
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Enjoy being married.
Marriage is a unique institution and you need to understand your spouse and your marriage and then enjoy it.
Don't get caught up in the details of the differences between the two of you or the minor frictions but enjoy being and sharing with this person who you love and who loves you.
There is such depth in your spouse that unfolds as you get to know them that you need to learn to celebrate them.
Make your relationship joyous by placing an emphasis on the good and amazing traits in your partner and your marriage.
Build up your partner with your speech by genuinely appreciating the behavior or attitudes that you see and admire each day.
You need to have an attitude of gratitude and to just do fun things together.
Spend happy times with your spouse.
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Remember before...
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Before you were married you probably had other partners that hurt you or who you just did not gel with.
Remember how you wasted your time in dead end relationships and with people who did not treat you right and put that all firmly in the past.
Realize that you spent enough time as a single person in hurtful situations and appreciate what you now have.
Realize that what you have is special and you need to put your efforts and energies into making your marriage all that it can be.
Your past should hold no attraction to you now so that you can concentrate on your marriage.
To establish a wonderful marriage you must put into practice these 3 tips.
A wonderful marriage doesn't just happen it requires both of you to have the right perspective and attitude.